Making Lasting Lifestyle Changes: The simple key to true change
by Jenny Ellis
Typically the impetus for making changes to the way we live, comes when we find ourselves reaching a critical point of tension or discomfort in life. Something is not right and often the body tells us in clear ways that things are not working – our body tells us change is needed.
Where we go wrong however begins right there: instead of making what has come up in the body a point of recognition, we instantly begin coming up with the solution or answer that will solve the problem, or in other words, we go outward first to:
We know from experience that actually making changes to our lifestyle for a day or two is easy, but when it comes to sustaining the effort, not so. We generally last a short time before we find ourselves falling back into old habits, feeling disheartened and defeated when it comes to our ability to change what we know we need to.
In fact, our usual strategy to find the solution or quick fix is actually destined to fail.
Because anytime we seek an answer from outside ourselves first, and impose on ourselves a ‘new way’ to replace unwanted behaviour, we have simply pulled a weed out by breaking it off at the ground. In not addressing the root system, the weed will simply re-grow, introducing the same or a revised version of the same unwanted behaviour.
And so… the real answer is that we must go inward first when we seek to make change, so that the root system of the weed is exposed, understood and unearthed for what it is. This leaves us free to make a choice, based on a newfound awareness of everything that contributes to the unwanted behaviour or choice.
Here is a basic guideline, which we can apply, to support this process of unearthing what doesn’t belong in our lives and make sustainable changes - not just from ground level, but from the roots up.
Our starting point must be to bring the greatest level of HONESTY to ourselves as we can. We can do this through self-reflection, or discussing the following with someone we trust:
This process of honest self-reflection can support you to deal with life’s intensity, as it offers how you can go about making lifestyle changes that you can sustain. It then allows you to build a new foundation of self-care, enabling you to maintain a greater level of vitality, energy, awareness and the capacity to cope with life’s intensity and demands.